I was afraid to post about the severing of the pastoral tie, and moving on from congregational ministry. You just never know how people might react, and there is such stigma around the dissolving of a pastoral tie, even when it is for non disciplinary reasons.
But I have been delightfully surprised. So many have reached out with a kind word, offering prayers and time for conversation. I have felt the support of colleagues and friends alike. It is good for my soul.
So today I am just thankful. And that is another step forward in healing. Never doubt how much good a simple kind word can do for another.
I remember hearing that Barbara Brown Taylor, one of my preaching and writing heroes wrote a book entitled, “Leaving Church.” It is on my to-be-read list, but that list is always SO much longer than what I’m able to tackle. So I haven’t read it, but the title came into my mind as I thought about writing this post.
My blog has always been an exercise in my own faith – I love that it helps others, but most of the time, I’m writing for myself. I write in order to process experiences, spend time in God’s word, and to keep track of what I was thinking and feeling in a certain season.
Today I want to write about leaving congregational ministry after 15 years. I feel a little like I’m blowing up my life, but the reality is that the last two years have been horrible. Between my own struggles with anxiety and depression (thanks, Covid), the realities of having to pivot several times from in-person worship to online and back again, and the burden of caring for a congregation during these uncertain and painful days, it has all been too much.
I had two choices: keep going until it killed me (it’s already come close a few times), or find a different path. Though I grieved the reality, I knew I couldn’t keep going until it killed me. There are too many people I love in this world, too many experiences I still wish to have, and too much good to be done, for me to be ready to leave at this point in my life.
So the only choice was to find a different path. I admit to you, I toyed with the idea of leaving my faith entirely. Of just giving up faith all together – no more church, no more prayer, no more scripture, no more sacred singing.
But I quickly realized that was my hurt and anger (and, no doubt, the enemy) whispering in my ear. That’s not the Voice I want to listen to. And at the end of the day – I can’t see a sunset without whispering a prayer of thanks; in my darkest nights, I sing the songs of my faith to find my way through the darkness; the scriptures still have the power to reach off the page and wring my heart with their beauty; and though I have been hurt by it, I still wish to serve the church that Jesus died to save.
And the thing is – God isn’t done with me yet. Thank God!
Instead, he quietly laid a path in front of me. For the next couple of years, I will be retraining in order to become a Christian psychotherapist and spiritual director. And it no longer feels like blowing up my life. Instead it feels like hearing the whisper of the Holy Spirit – it feels like listening to the voice I WANT to listen to, the voice of the triune God who loves me.
The pastoral tie with my congregation has been dissolved. I’ve been moved to the appendix to the role in my Presbytery. I have applied to Knox College for the MPS (Masters of Pastoral Studies) program.
I’m other words, I’ve begun taking steps forward. There are still many steps ahead.
My hope is to blog through this process – for myself, of course. But I also invite you to join me on the journey. May God use my experiences to bless and encourage others.
Dear Friends, thank you so much for checking out my blog, letting me know what it’s meant to you, and being part of my community. As with so many of us, the pandemic has taken its toll on me. My doctor has recommended a leave and told me that my full-time job during this break is to work on my own health. It’s really difficult to choose not to blog for the next several weeks, but I trust my doctor and wish to follow her best advice.
So this will be my last blog for a while. I’d appreciate your prayers and look forward to returning to blogging once I am back from leave.
In the meantime, there were just too many good Easter Memes to not do one final post. So, let’s go!
This made me giggle, but also made me sad as Ontario is in its third lockdown since the pandemic began (and I pray it will work, because the stories from the ICU are scary!):
An oldie, but a goodie:
If it all happened now, this would be how that episode would go down:
But, SERIOUSLY:
Bunny jokes are seasonal, right?!:
Seriously, bunny:
Ryan Reynolds cracks me up! And that comment – perfect (also, get your jab as soon as you can, and I will pray you stay safe until you do!):
Loooove:
This lovely bit of poetic encouragement:
And this reminder (it’s not just for the parents!):
And finally, this blessing for your day:
Until I return, dear friends, be blessed and be a blessing!
Welcome to Easter Sunday on the blog! May the service be a blessing:
And just because it’s been a while since I shared anything from Fountainview Academy, and this hymn always makes me think of Resurrection Sunday, here is “Blessed Assurance”:
Until tomorrow, dear friends, Easter blessings to you!
So, some of you will know there was a bit of confusion about the time of the service this morning. Totally my fault, but the good thing about virtual services is that they can be viewed anytime. So, here is our join service with Morningside High Park Presbyterian, may it be blessing:
And just for a little extra Holy Week music, here is Andrew Peterson’s haunting Tenebrea, which sets the seven last words from the cross to music:
Until tomorrow, dear friends, may you hold the cross in your heart and keep the Easter vigil as we await the Empty Tomb.
It has been our practice at Graceview Presbyterian, to host a Stations of the Cross drop-in prayer vigil. This year, that vigil is virtual, and has developed into. a little service including prayer from the Central Etobicoke Ministerial, and a Communion. So please grab your elements (anything to eat, and anything to drink – what ever you have on hand is good – last time we did communion, people shared that they had cranberry juice or tea, and I thought it was wonderful that they were willing to recognize that in unprecedented times, sometimes you just have to go with what works!) and may this service be a blessing to you:
Until tomorrow, dear friends, may you be strengthened by the meal we have shared.
As we move ever closer to the Last Supper, the betrayal, the arrest and trial, the walk to Golgotha and death on the cross, I want to share a couple of Holy Week resources. Today, I’m sharing a prayer for Holy Week:
Our Lord Jesus, you went faithfully to Jerusalem, speaking with your disciples of your death, they welcomed you with the branches of celebration for the coming of a Saviour, and only you understood that it was through the sacrifice of your death that the promise of salvation would be fulfilled.
Like the patriots of old you cleansed the temple, they tried to trap you with questions as you taught, and you were betrayed on the night when you gave the symbols of your life with which to remember you at the table.
You washed their feet as an example of service to one another before you submitted to ultimate humiliation and cruel death.
Faithful servant of God and of your human brothers and sisters, we worship and adore you as our Lord and Saviour. Amen.
I mean, they managed to move the boat today, but this was just too good not to share (Canadian content joke, not sure my American buddies will get it):
How I wish this weren’t true. But it totally is:
Hahaha:
Spring in Ontario be like:
Heated seats are seriously the best, though:
I love how children see the world:
I absolutely love this…Jesus knew!:
This lovely piece of advice. (Even if you, like me, might struggle with applying it right now…the reminder is still good!):
True story, though. (And moment of gratitude for some awesome women I know who’ve been working hard at building me up!💖):
I’m not the only one, right?!:
And finally, this blessing for your day:
Until tomorrow, dear friends, keep on laughing and thinking and drawing closer to God!
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